How to deal with critiques

I came across this blog post today by Steve Malley (I'm unsure from where I got pointed to this blog, but I enjoy it) about dealing with harsh criticisms.  It seemed fitting for me, and something for all writers to keep in mind when receiving crits.  STANDARD DISCLAIMER:  This does not mean that any of the crits I've received so far on my story this week have been harsh or that they have deflated me, nor that any of you should temper your crit so as to not make me feel bad!

I think sometimes we do tend to want to discount advice, even to argue with it.  Steve makes some good points on stepping back and looking at it dispassionately.  After all, crits are meant to help, to let the writer know of the problems each reader had with the story.  If you get a raving good crit, how does that help you improve the story?  Especially if the critter is just afraid to hurt feelings, or even worse, if they give out good crits because they want to receive good crits in return (instead of honest ones).  Honesty can be painful, receiving a harsh crit can be disappointing, especially if the writer thinks the story has turned out just perfectly.  Usually it's just a matter of not getting the information needed to understand the story out from your brain and onto the page.  And if it's not pointed out, how can you tell? 

If you follow the link, the list is at the end.  Lovely title too: 

Steve's Full Throttle Guide to Slings and Arrows